give him a LOT of time to figure that out, if your pride can handle it. You cannot expect him to simply "realize it". Meanwhile be upbeat for YOU and your d and GAL and stop staring at him to decide if you are "allowed" to be happy now. At SOME point you'll have to see that HIS happiness or misery is NOT an index for yours....okay? ((( )))
That's the thing. I never realized how co dependent I had become with him. There's been no separation of our moods, our actions, etc in years. I don't know how that happens, but it did.
