It appears that she has been hiding money again, after I initially discovered some problems in July. I discovered this yesterday as I was preparing to pay bills. I told her at that time we need our income going into our joint account unless we otherwise agree (Which was the practice during our M). This led to some hard discussion last night where I got to try some of your suggestions. She has told me that she will explain the missing check that never made it to our joint account from her work but I'm still waiting.
It is clear that she is very angry about our past and how she felt I treated her. I think the question approach was good in that it got her talking but I sure didn't like what I heard. I have noticed in that past that she lightens up the next day quite a bit after venting. I haven't seen her today so don't know if this happened.
She's sent me a couple emails today to which I haven't responded, as they didn't require a response. I'm beginning to wonder if she really is someone worth fighting for at this point...
Me: 45 W: 45 S: 12 D: 9 M: 16 T:22
Bomb: 4/20/2011 Says she moves out in July with Kids Discovered Affair: 6/10/2011 She files for divorce: 8/18/2011
