Thanks everyone, for your support. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by being so patient. She is still playing the victim card ("Look how my own son has written me off", "My life is becoming so unglued", etc.) while she continues down her crazy path. IF what she is telling me is true about her "hands off" relationship with the OM, then that means SS21 no longer has his own room at her house, and trust me, that is not good for his happiness and stability.
I can go either way with this. I will hold off on the D for a while, but I could file today if needed, and I wouldn't look back for a second.
I would also recommend time. I know this is your 2nd M, but I am assuming that you are coming at this from a totally different perspective? Is that a wrong assumption.
As someone who is going through a D at a very rapid pace.. I constantly wish for time. Not just because I still want M (I won't deny that I won't) but it's a helluva lot of feelings to process. Some days I just can't handle myself.
If I would have gotten D last month, I would have been much angrier, now I'm more calm. Two months ago, I would have given w way more than she deserved, now I am saying I deserve half.
I'm not saying you are me.. I'm just saying time has been a godsend for me. If you can hang in there.. do so.
My .02
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
