Compassion for a MLCer

[broken5150]

Okay!

Just got off the phone with W.


Apparently, she wants me to give her my pay stubs so W and her lawyer can figure out child support.

I can’t trust her. A couple of weeks ago, she gave me divorce papers that some parts were scribbled and filled in by hand and some parts were left blank. She told me just to sign it and she will fill in the blanks later! WTH???

When I told her that I would not give her the stubs, she threw a fit crying at the top of her lungs screaming “YOU NEVER GIVE ME WHAT I WANT!!!! WHY WHY WHY?!?

Now Im starting to get worried.

Is this part of MLC or should I be worried about something a little more critical???

[Drew]

Have you seen a lawyer yet?

When I told her that I would not give her the stubs, she threw a fit crying at the top of her lungs screaming "YOU NEVER GIVE ME WHAT I WANT!!!! WHY WHY WHY?!?"

Like a little kid's temper tantrum. Totally according to script ...

[warriorshadow]

I second that.
TOTALLY SCRIPT!
WS

[broken5150]

Hi All,

Did many of you get advice from friends and loved ones that stated " He/She is moving on with his/her life! Let her go and move on yourself"?

My hopes are hanging on by a thread. It seems hopeless.

Last night I was at worship rehearsals and I got out about 9:45 pm. I had signed up my son to go to the gym with me, but this week is a busy week for me because I also have wedding rehearsals for a friend of mine.

I called my son (13 yrs old) and told him it was a little too late to go to the gym and that I would take him today! He was a little bummed out about it and said no problem.

W called today to tell me that he started crying up a storm and saying that I had let him down. (Not true at all) Also, that she was going to take him to HER new gym where OM works out and to take him to see OM play softball.

OMG! My hats off to all the people that tolerated things like this and saw it all the way through. Its an INCREDIBLE display of courage, strength and heart.

Have there been any situations that have been worse and recovered?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

5150,

Look buddy, I know what you are looking for.
Look for it. There are archives here as well.

Yes, many of us were told to move on. Because our friends and family don't want to see us hurt, and they think we won't hurt if we just move on. Move on...quickly. Find someone new.

Everyone story is different, and everyone's story is similar.

We are in this, together, alone.

I am literally swamped at work.

You want an example to follow and compare...you want hope. Hope is fine...but that example you're looking for...those are someone else's shoes... Become your own hero, become that guy that people who come here look for.

Do your best.

[Drew]

"Never tell me the odds."

-Han Solo

[broken5150]

God I love this place! Support AND Star Wars fans.

Does it get any better than this???

Thank God the SW Celebration is here in Orlando next year :o)

[Mach1]

Does it get any better than this???

Hey there Van Sammy.....

Yes, it actually get a LOT better than this....

The recipe for that success, lies within.....

[AJM]

Van Sammy? LOL.

B, re-read J3B's post. Your path lies with you. You know you need to let her go as part of your faith. You know that letting her go is not the same as being done. You also know that her accusing you of letting your son down is a load of manure.

Let all of that go. Be you. As you become you more and more regardless of what others tell you or do (including that person you used to trust) you become stronger and gain perspective.

I am a faithful man. I try. I held on as long as *I* could. I didn't listen to friends and I'm glad I didn't. I told friends and family to stay out of it. They needed to let me do things my way and my way only. This was between ex and I.

I'm glad I did that. I'm glad I learned to not trust her and her selfish and demeaning ways. That is not the person I knew and is likely not the person that will always be. But for me, letting go meant letting go of all of that.

My friends and family told me same. Heck, her family told me same Know what? I am me. I walk in my shoes and I walk with my God and nobody else unless they choose to come along. All are welcome.

As for moving on. What does that mean to you?

Stay with it as long as you can. Don't give up if that is what you want.

We all take different paths. Find yours. Let those that follow with you follow. Let those that don't, find their own and be happy with that.

Start by not letting her accusations bother you. They are her feelings and her feelings alone. Leave them that there.

AJ

[broken5150]

Hi all!

Ok,now its getting to the point where she being downright nasty.

Weekend came and she's calling me to hurry and pick up the kids. When I got there, MIL was not home but OM was. No wonder she was in a rush for me to pick them up.

Here's the kicker, the MAIN complaint she had about me was that I was playing tooo much Xbox with my son. When I pick up my kids, they tell me that all the OM does, is play Xbox all day in MY gaming room. lol.

This morning she insisted that I go to her lawyers office and sign papers. I told her no! I asked her to have me served and I will take it to MY lawyer. It's seems now that she is really rushing the D.

When I told her no, she threw a fit screaming and stomping on the ground. She said "I'm paying for this! You just do want this divorce! Just sign the effing papers!"

I don't want to hold her back from what she wants, but I'm not stupid either to get divorced without a lawyer.

Any hope that I had is all but gone. However, I am at peace with whatever she does. God makes all things work together for our good.

I've chosen not to stand anymore and let God do his thing. I look fwd to living a happy life. As long as I have my time with my babies, that's all that matters. It just [censored] that she gets to keep them while she relives her teenage years, unemployed, full time student, boydreinds, and MIL wiping her a$$.

I wonder how the heck she can EVER hit rock bottom like this...