IMHO that's not really a reason for the A. What you don't understand is that if he really missed the spark with you, why didn't he try to connect with you before finding the OW? Just a word of warning. Most of the couples who reconcile have a number of false starts. They go through a new honeymoon period that soon wears out. Not trying to be a naysayer here, but if I had a nickle for every situation who "reconciled" the way you have, then found themselves back here in a couple of months or years, I'd be very rich indeed.
Has HE learned any new things to keep the spark going? That spark will go out in time like it did the first time he had an A. Sometimes I get the feeling that you're so happy that he's back, you think the work is done. Not so.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
