Compassion for a MLCer

[broken5150]

Albuquerque,

Thanks for replying. I can never hear the name “Albuquerque” and not think of Bugs Bunny. Lol.


To be honest, Im emotionally fatigued trying to understand what is going on so I think Im reaching the point of acceptance.
When she mentioned the D today, I was like “ whatever, just get it over with already”.

Like I have posted before, she looks like she is having the time of her life. I admit that sometimes I do see her pretending to be happy and I think to myself, well maybe this isn’t MLC. Maybe this is what she wanted. But when I remember our past and our good times, her reaction now to our M just doesn’t match. Even before the accident last October, she had told me that her and I are destined to be together forever. Now look at us…

Sometimes, I question our situation and ask myself is this really an MLC? At the beginning of this whole mess, I told a fellow church member about what was going on. I had asked him because he went through something similar. He then referred me to a chapter of a book called “How to Survive Your Wife’s MLC” by Christine Schapp. Needless to say, she matched every single symptom to a tee except for the affair-which I did have a gut feeling about it, but never confirmed it.

I believe the affair come to light now because God knew I wasn’t ready to handle that bomb back then. He has trained me for a year to deal with it..

The reason I believe that its an MLC, is because, in my opinion, if it were truly ME that were the problem, she would of divorced me and gotten rid of the “poor excuse for a human being” from her life and be happy. But she’s living the careless life of a teenager. She takes advantage of EVERY opportunity to put me through the grinder. She is wearing these REDICULOUS hair extensions that cost her $300 a month to maintain. She has a brand new Dodge Durango, dresses like a teenybopper and her language, demeanor and lifestyle is comedic from a certain point of view.

She is displaying text book NARCISSM!

So, one of her complaints about me was that I like playing allot of xbox in my man-cave. Guess what her young OM is doing when he goes to the house? HE’S PLAYING XBOX ALL DAY! LMAO!

Oh and another hint of MLC was when I picked up W and kids and took them to the movies, we had lunch before and she was ordering hard liquor at 12 pm in the afternoon. SHE ALMOST NEVER DRANK!

So guys, please, if there is a possibility that this ISNT an MLC, please let me know your input.


@ Mach1

About 5150, man, its Van Halen. DON’T HATE THE HALEN! LOL

Well, it makes sense that everything is amplified during MLC because she always WAS kind of selfish and insecure. And she said something today that was VERY much like her. “In our marriage, I did EVERYTHING RIGHT! I never did ANYTHING WRONG! THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT AND YOUR DOING! AND I PUT UP WITH YOUR HELL FOR 20 YEARS! I REMEMBER THE DAY OF OUR PROM IN 1990…..BLAH BLAH BLAH!”

You know what they say… You cant take a drunk to an AA meeting if he doesn’t think he’s a drunk!

Oh, I would like to share with you guys a comment she made to me yesterday….

“My life is better than ever! I’m and educated person and you have nothing but a HS diploma! I’m living like a VIP, B!TCH! PEOPLE HOLD MY HAND WHEN I GET OUT OF MY DURANGO!”

I had to mute my phone and drop dead from the laughter. Lol! But, she REALLY knows it kills me when she tells me that the kids are always asking for OM and that they love him.

So, IF the D is actually really coming this time, once its done, I don’t really think I’ll remain standing. I’ll leave it in the hands of God. I believe that I will always love W with everything that I am. And IF and when she snaps out of it, I won’t turn my back on her. However, if I’m in a good R, I’m not leaving it for her.