Cam - I'm sorry you're going through this. I only have a second before a meeting but wanted to say that I sympathize. I was in a similar place. Bond's giving you good advice....hmmmmm...same I got come to think of it. My advice, get a IC (don't tell your W for now) and let it all out to them. Exercise to get some stress out. Minimmize contact with your W to when you can be calm and confident. Work on old friendships. Over time, all this helps. Despite what it feels like you don't have to do anything to try and win your W back right now. Step one is to work on YOU. Because working on you IS working on your M. Please take care of yourself. The awful panicked feeling does pass, and then you can do the real work for you and your M. Stay in touch.
