You are doing what is perfectly understandable. Trying to UNDERSTAND it all. Trying to make SENSE of it all. The MLC-er is lost in a fog of despair, confusion, depression etc. THEY don't know what the hell they're doing. They are just as confused as you are. So trying to make sense of it will only make YOU as crazy as they are. Not a good thing. I've had many conversations with my H about his fog (which he's not completely out of). They are in enormous pain and despair but always try to put up a front that they are having fun.
You are getting good advice here. Don't react. Don't try to understand. Don't fret about the mixed messages. That's all normal for MLC. You can't understand crazy. You can't make her understand that SHE'S crazy. Stop doing it. Just let it flow over you and expect nonsense. Otherwise, you come off as antagonistic. No one wants to be with someone who is constantly trying to prove them wrong. Concentrate on yourself. Make yourself better. That's the only way you will come out of this a winner.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
