And why can't he tell me what I need to be working on?
Ask him for a LIST.
That really, really, really made me laugh, Endeavour! Thanks for dropping by my thread. I've missed you!
We ended up texting for a few hours last night (that is how my husband is most comfortable communicating, so I'm okay with that), and all is well. I just needed to vent on here and recharge my batteries. We have a dinner date tonight, and we are having family night at the movies on Friday. So yes, we are making steps (baby ones) in the right direction. I just have to be PATIENT.
One positive thing I'm noticing on both ends (180s for both...does that make a 360? ) is that when we do fuss, the roller coaster only dips momentarily (as opposed to the death-defying plunges), and then it steadies back out pretty quickly (as opposed to taking days). Another 180 for H is that he is expressing words of affirmation (my top Love Language). He thanks me for helping him out and for taking care of things in general, he tells me I look pretty and that he loves me. I don't know if his IC is helping him with that, if he's been reading the LL book or if he's just getting to know me after 15 years together, but whatever it is, I like it.
So, I continue on...for now. I guess none of us really know how long we can stand being in this marathon. Funny thing is, I've always been a sprinter (on the track and in life!), so yes, I believe God is trying to teach me some important lessons as I work to save my marriage.
