E, I haven't posted much on your situation but I have been reading everything. I admire you for staying strong through this mess. You are very wise to be wary and cautious right now; your H is saying all of the right things, but now his actions - long-term actions - need to prove he is doing the right thing.

It's good to keep him a little off-balance regarding your R; you've got the control now, and I know you will use that control in the best way possible for yourself and your R with your H.

I salute you and hug you at the same time.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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