Wii: I am so sorry to hear this. I think this is what the rest of us suspected and tried to warn you of. The problem is that you fell for her head over heels despite all the little warning signs that things were not what you wanted.
She was just not that into you but all the little things she did (like texting and going out) led you to believe it was something much more than it really was. And outsiders could see it but you could not because infatuation is like that and it was what you SO needed.
Remember what I told you about my first Post D R??? I was head over heels nuts for him and read so much into every little thing he did. I was sure that the stars had aligned and that we were surely to be together. I took his lack of physical contact (no kissing - just hugging) as his wanting to go slow as he was still not completely over his wife. What I didn't acknowledge was that he was dating other women and apparently - didn't have any trouble kissing them. He LIKED me and liked spending time with me but never saw us together as I did. And when he realized I wanted more - he dropped me like a hot potato. And I cried so much I couldn't get out of bed. More than I had when my husband left because I "needed" him so much. But I also bounced back fast. And I learned a lot. And it opened me up to more and better possibilities. I went on to a real dating R. One that involved a bit more but the guy was not as much my type and I ended it. Then one more. Then I met Josh and when I met him - I was ready. My first Post D (and subsequent) had made me ready for the Right One. And maybe if I had met Josh first - it would never have gone this way.
Again - I am sorry to see you hurting. But don't write off all women. The right woman will love you for who you are and she will be an equal partner in dating. Don't give up. But don't try dating again until you have had some time to process clearly what you have learned.
