when I detach I am happy and at peace. H doesn't occupy head space. Someone else does and that is my problem too. But I am working on it.
That is a big problem for you but at least you are starting to recognize it. If you can't NOT think about H when you are alone, you are not ready for a real relationship with anyone, including H. That means that you do not feel "whole" unless you are with someone. You need to get to the point where you know you'll be OK, ALONE. I think you realize you'd be OK without H because you'd be able to find someone else. And while that's all well and good, you need to work on the alone part some more.
That being said, he will always occupy some part of your mind since he is the father of your children and was such a big part of your life. So I'm not saying thinking about him at all is unhealthy. That' simply unrealistic. Hopefully you get what I'm trying to say here.
((((TAMF))))
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
