Trying not to hope is hard

[25yearsmlc]

yes it has to be her that brings up ANY R talk.

You are to show consistent change over time, not score a victory point

(I know that wasn't your intent but it could look like it.)

IF you bring up the r or say "see how great it CAN be with us?" there's a good chance she'll shut down and maybe, for good.

So back way off, & Keep doing your work.

My guess is she sure wishes she wasn't the sole breadwinner AND OR that your contribution was not so far off.

She wants to know there's a pay off, and a "3 more FULL TIME years, for
so so money"

probably isn't as powerful as you'd like. (I'm Just guessing)

Also, your argument that if being a mooch were your real goal you would have left now, rings hollow.

Don't make that argument to her b/c my immediate response was, "why would you leave now? You still get a roof over your head and food so..."

So it's just not a strong argument, imo.

Oh and fyi- don't repeat negative charges. Remember the Nixon "I'm not a crook" speech? He ended up looking exactly like a crook. That word is what was associated with him.

Never repeat the negative. I did crim defense and PR work and always told my clients, you just "Deny the charges"-- you don't say "I'm not a child molester"....see the difference?

MOVING ON-

Are You sure science ed is the fastest way to a functioning working degree?

Dang there are a lot of companies that pay salaries AND part of tuition

(as well as gov jobs, my friend worked for the feds and they paid 75% of her school and then she got promotions when she completed the degree)


so I always think for married peopleto go to school later on, is a lot tougher than they thought it would be when they dropped out...

but not as tough as not going at all.

Hang in there.