I am willing to give her as many chances as it takes. But right now she wants to have her cake and eat it to. She wants to keep living in the home, allow me to take care of the kids, work and pay the mortgage while she goes out and has the affair. I know it's not about what's fair, it's about us both being happy.
My instinct at this point says to tell her about what I have discovered about myself...that I am a Mr. Nice Guy and what that means and that now I understand why I did to her what I did. NOt to try and sway her but she deserves to know that I now really understand not just what I did to hurt her for so long by WHY I did it. At the same, time, in my heart I feel she needs to choose. Either stay with me and the kids or move out and have her affair. The way it is right now is not good for me, her or the kids.
