Yes you do have a say. What you need to do is to understand that you can't control how she feels any more than she can tell you how to feel.
Understand that she's not wanting the M right now. It doesn't mean she won't change her mind. Understand why she feels the way she does and relinquish control. You're grasping onto your R like a dying man in the desert holding onto a canteen of water. You don't need her to live.
Think about it this way. If there was a girl who was interested in you and threw herself at you begging and pleading to go out with you, would you be attracted to them?
Fear is what's driving you right now. You need to do whatever you can to get rid of that fear. Learn that you're worth something even if your W can't see that now. Just remember that there was a time that she did.
YOu need to start developing an "attitude". Kind of like a Tony Soprano thing. Get your b@lls back from your W. Be the man. You can do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.