MLC Only lasted 1 month? It seems unlikely....

[Willing1]

Thanks all. As much as I would like to believe the 'code red' is over, I know that isn't true. First of all, I have a lot of growth yet to accomplish. I have made a good start but a month does not count for a 'new me'.

For today, I will continue toward being not just the best spouse I know I am capable of being but the best father, son, sibling, neighbor, friend, etc. that I can also be. The more accomplished I become in these roles and the better job I do at detaching and accepting those around me, the less I find it necessary to obsess over the R. The attempt to control the outcome of the R is an illusion anyway. There is no controlling it. All we have is the ability to change self...and to the extent that the change in self effect those around us but there isn't any magic 'go fix her' or 'go fix him' program that will work.

I am actually familiar with the concepts embodied in the DB / DR program & books. I just never thought of these principles in terms of marriage and relationships and I certainly never thought I would be facing the prospect of a divorce. Never say never and don't take good things for granted. I realize that I could have taken a different route years ago and worked toward an almost flawless execution of these steps and principles and STILL ended up in this same place which takes us back to the 'you have
no control' viewpoint.

Thanks again for all the support. I might as well settle in a little bit. The long part of the journey is here, I think.