Originally Posted By: broken5150

Aid in figuring out what to change in the MLC'ers side or ours?


I can tell you, that if you are changing ONLY in the hopes that she will see your changes and come running back....

You might have better luck, trying to nail Jello to a tree....

The key with MLC....Is to expect nothing , yet prepare for everything...

To expect nothing except the un-expected..

To rely on nothing , except her being un-reliable..

To expect nothing from her at all...

To change the things that you want to change, because YOU want to change them...

To see beyond the box that contains all of your emotions, when dealing with an MLCer..

Finding out who you really are , underneath all of the years of being in a certain role for so long, that you forgot who you are...

Unwrap the "husband" , and find the man behind all of that.

You doing the things you need for you, because that is the only person that you can control ( or change).

YOU are a single parent right now....period.

Expect ZERO help from her on parenting right now...this is up to you....

Nobody said MLC is easy Broken....

And if you think YOU have it hard ???

Try walking in their shoes for a while....


How are YOUR goals coming along ?