time and distance

[gunny]

hello all,
agreed, we must keep moving and staying busy.I am in the same boat as ac and ayngl. Last night, my w and I had a long talk, she is leaving in the next few weeks, we are friendly, and I ask her questions on what things I did in the mariage that contributed to its demise. I want to know these things because I think it will help me in my next relationship. She said we had alot of good times, but that my inability to show intimacy and my devotion to my mother/family took away from the quality of our marriage. Many times she did not feel like she was a priority, and I have to say, she was probably justified in feeling this way. When I think of the lost opportunities I had in this marriage, I want to cry, sometimes i do cry, but I am also strong in my conviction that this is a normal part of grieving, we are going through the death of our marriage. Some night I sleep, some I dont' the nights that I do sleep, I always feel better the next morning.
Again, AC hang in there, maybe we can correspond back and forth to offer support,
Gunny