lc4, it sounds to me like you are weary of being in limbo or weary of the logistics surrounding the situation. Are you really ready for your H to move back home right now? If the logistics are flat dab wearing you out, is there a better way to do things? If you are tired of being in limbo, IMO you need to give it more time. If there's too much too soon, you will likely find yourself back in this situation or worse down the road.
I'm glad to hear y'all are getting along well.
Originally Posted By: lc4
I recently put up the boundary of no more ML until we are living together again.
I think this is a perfectly reasonable boundary. IOW, does he want to be M'd or doesn't he? I think it's important that you set this boundary based on how it's hampering your detaching efforts rather than as a tactic to get him to commit one way or the other and break the limbo.
I think the next steps are enforcing those boundaries, improving the logistics, and detaching. Unfortunately, IMO to be successful in saving the M and yourself is going to require some more limbo and will require some more time. Your H needs to take his journey and he needs to miss you.
