I didn't use venting as a bad word here, I think it is healthy to vent to others who might share in the problem, pain or even have advice.
After 14 years, I'm not sure what to say, except that I'm not sure I could have done that. After 14 years that task of overcoming the problem must seem daunting or impossible. After 14 years? I think I'd start hating my wife if she disdained something so vital and important to me, something I could only morally do with her.
Like ss TRY something different, but with 14 years? Those changes aren't going to be noticed quickly. Not days, weeks or months...but who knows? Maybe 15 or 16 years and you get back to a place where sex is a maintenance tool for your marriage.
IF nothing changes? If you don't try, this is your lot.
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Woman who get involved with me, just so they don't have to be sexual.
Don't buy into this. Don't accept this and do not believe it. That right there is borderline acceptance of a sexless marriage. And F that.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
