Tad, You've did well in how you handled your conversation w/your wife. Leave her to sit and ponder for a while.
Each poster has given you excellent advice and much to think about. She knows that you care and would jump over the moon to have her return home, but her journey is not yet completed and she's going to have to finish it up before she comes to realize what she's lost. She's still very much in the teen years and she needs to grow up.
Divorce hearings have a way of making people emotional and think about things. Her ponderings are pretty much the standard thoughts for mlcers. They all want to be friends in the future, but they don't realize the damage they have created and there just might not be a place in the lbs lives later on. Many lbs move on to new relationships and do not want to be friends w/them. It's a gamble that has a very high price tag on it. But, at this time, it's not something you need to be concerned about, as you need to focus on the here and now.
Tad, keep up the good work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
