Thanks everyone, for your support. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by being so patient. She is still playing the victim card ("Look how my own son has written me off", "My life is becoming so unglued", etc.) while she continues down her crazy path. IF what she is telling me is true about her "hands off" relationship with the OM, then that means SS21 no longer has his own room at her house, and trust me, that is not good for his happiness and stability.

I can go either way with this. I will hold off on the D for a while, but I could file today if needed, and I wouldn't look back for a second.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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