The term is fag stag. I looked it up

I can laugh about it now, but it was frustrating a the moment.

I mean the astonishment I had after she got into the shower with me was one thing.

The astonishment she expressed when she turned me around to face her (and I was fully erect, the first time she had seen me that way) and my assuring her that "it would fit" is what i can laugh about in the context of her eventually coming out of the closet.

A good friend of mine (younger than I am) went through a similar experience. In retrospect, we missed some signs. But we were young and the gender identity of the girls/woman we were involved with were still developing.

The Captain


Last sex: 04/06/1997
Last attempt: 11/11/1997
W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997
W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998
I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds.
Start running again (marathons)