alone, thank you for the kind words. I am sorry you had to go through that. I wish my kids didnt.
mlc, i hear what you are saying. I have often tried to see from all sides, i just cant do it any more. I have to see it from my side. I have to take care of me.
I have been away from the boards for a little while. I have been in the hospital. I got a chest cold and then pneumonia. So it wasnt the best of times for my family. I am back at home now. When this happened, i collapsed at home and my MIL call 911. She informed her daughter that i was rushed to the hospital, My STBXW didnt come and take care of the kids. My Parents and MIL and BIL took turns.
I even had a friend come from Tennessee and stay for 10 days to make sure the kids were taken care of on a daily basis and there first week of school was as good as could be expected. All the time, STBXW relied on my parents to take her too and from her visits and that was all she was willing to do. My mom brought her to the hospital 1x and she sat there and all she could say was, "I cant deal with you being sick!". Well i looked at her and said, "I am, its done, cant be changed, and i have to deal with it, i dont need her inability to face reality on me as well."
My mother took her home and i havent heard from her since. My parents pick up the kids on tuesdays and thursdays after school and take them to their house. If she wants to see them, she goes there. My parents allow her to stay at their house for her weekends visits as well. My mother has told her, that until i contact her, she need not call, text, email or facebook me. She will not be at my house and she will not create any more stress for me.
Has been the calmest 3 weeks i have had in a long time.
my AT. has filed all necessary paperwork, and we are waiting for her response.
i am picking the battle for life with my kids over the battle to fix my marriage. I cant do both and i know my kids need me.
