Footnotes, I guess...

[any chance?]

I want her to take care of herself, and get the help she obviously needs. With or without me, she deserves to get her head and her heart right. I could hear some desperation in her voice today, and I am concerned about her mental and emotional health.

Ditto, ditto, ditto in my world. How in the H$LL do you deal with this? You want to help, but cannot. She has to learn her own lessons, and that is totally out of your control. Do you just let them crash and burn?

In your sitch, Tele, you are definately in the stand back and watch what happens mode. Be there, be strong, keep the faith.