You're both right about not getting any hopes up, although as I said, I'm not sure what to hope for. I definitely do not take any pleasure from her unhappiness, but I also am not going to step in and try to fix or rescue. I could see me playing white knight, getting her back and 6 months or a year down the road it happens all over again.

Not sure what else I can do to protect myself regarding OM and the mother other than to remain detached and not read anything into anything. The words, "There is nothing going on between us" came out of the same mouth that said "I'll never leave you for any reason."

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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