W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well when she dropped the bomb she used any negative thing she could think of throughout our marriage to justify her feelings. She would always hold her feelings in and when she expressed them it was usually in rage that I could never handle or knew what to do with. The month before this happened she was hanging out away from the house more and more with a friend who is going through a divorce and I commented on it then but didn't realize it was headed down this road. I'm the kind of guy that is a do'er rather than a talker so much. I think I always compensated for her lack of making decisions and had no problems expressing my feelings most the time. I think I realize now that she just wanted more verbal support in various aspects of life through words.

She told people that happiest time was when she was pregnant which confused me because she was sick as a dog but I really think it was I had to support and take care of her more than normal.

Her family has always been broken since her parents divorce when the husband cheated on the mom. They all have communication issues and emotional problems. My W is now doing things with her Dad that she use to dog on during our marriage. He is the only one that will apparently validate her actions.

It felt like the issues we had were the normal couple things but apparently there was more to it. She really has not said much about me to people she has talked to and says she is working on her issues. I had concerns about being bipolar or some other type of psychiatric problem which I expressed to here as. She has an appointment with a psychiatrist that I'm not suppose to know about but I do. Her counselor is supposedly helping her get into one. I'm really not sure what to think about that but I think she has been depressed in the past and then the drastic lifestyle change seemed like a mania phase to me but who knows.

In hindsight she has been a emotional roller coaster of emotions that my family felt like they had to walk on pins and needles when they were with her. She always that people were going out of here way to not invite her or something but it was never the case. She does work and my sisters don't so that's why half the time they were doing stuff during the day that she couldn't and my wife has no sisters.

I know I could do a better job a the romance thing, spending quality time with her, and getting her things that she wants but her communication was so poor I never knew what she was thinking.

She apparently had a hidden Kohls credit card that she told a mutual friend about before this happened and said not to tell me about it. When she dropped the bomb she blew money on clothes like crazy. She went drinking for 3 days straight which was never done before and we had just really started drinking in the last 2 months of so and never heavy. I'm just confused about the whole situation and everyone that has talked to her is just as confused. Not really sure what to think other than I'm not pushing anymore. I'm finally content on just working on me and making me happy while she works out whatever she is working out. I really think she is stalling until the psychiatrist thing happens but who knows, she won't give on anything about us. I can't focus on it anymore because it was just making me crazy. We both have lost lots of weight because of this.

What should I do from here?