Another crisis.....but H opening up now

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I do see changes in H's behaviour since we had the talk.

This whole time that he has been away, he has been emailing me pictures of where he has been, the food he is eating. This is something he has been doing with OW a lot, and not with me for the past year.

He has been in touch, he asked me to call him 2x of which I did once, and he called yesterday. He makes small talk during our calls.

I sense an effort on his part to communicate and connect.

I am not sure how to act when we are talking; I am worried that my cheerfulness will come across as contrived. Before, in the past, I would be so excited if he called, but now I no longer feel that way. I actually worry more about what I am going to say to him.

I want to keep on concentrating on myself, and not be distracted by what he says or does. I have moved on from working on patience, to now working on letting go of my anger and resentment. And also my domineering and controlling ways.

One thing at a time. Not that I get the patience part fully!