Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[Navyguy]

Hey everyone, thought i'd check in and give a quick update.

Since my last post, things have been wonderful. I am sure now that W has begun to start taking down the wall. I took last week off from work and W and I spent a lot of time together (shopping, going out to lunch, etc.) while the kids were in school. Just having a good time together and enjoying each other's company. Sort of an informal "dating" thing I guess.

It feels like we are bonding, emotionally and physically...almost like when we first met. Still no R talks, but I feel like we don't need one. Neither of us has said ILY yet...not because it's not there, but more because it feels like when we were first dating and were both scared to be the first one to say ILY.

I wish I could tell you all that there was one specific thing that made this turn happen...but I don't think there was one. It all comes down to sticking to the methods that are preached here over and over again...time, patience, space, and becoming the person your S wouldn't want to leave.

I'm still a long ways from the finish line but I now know it's there....just have to keep the pace slow and steady....