the conversation at your end can be less than 4 sentences. Get information FROM HIM
and find out what the heck is going on and tell him your concerns (BRIEFLY) wihtout judgement. Something like "how are "WE" affording this car?
Is there enough money for ME to keep the house and son to go to college? How so? Where is it? When can I access it....
if he hems and haws or pulls that stressed out act with you,
(sadly, it'll be OW he returns to afterwards, for comfort).
He knows you had history with mil and that's good. So a comforting hug in this limited circumstance would have been fine.
I'm confused why you didn't do it. Did you think it would be pursuit? Well,
You can hug and SAY "I hope she gets better"....to make it clearly a compassionate hug and not pursuit or neediness.
But back to you and son's needs...
If he whines about all the stress and his mom is sick and he's got blah blah blah but only if it goes like that,
YOU Say, something like "h, I get that, but that's your responsibility.
My responsibility is making sure son and I don't end up on the streets. I have to protect son and myself.
So Please provide me with regular reliable access to this money, so I don't have to "ask" you or worse, file for a court order..."
This way you are not bringing up the rolls royce ( I find that almost laughably mentally ill
IF your fears of money are on point) and you aren't bringing up his OW and lavish lifestyle...just saying what YOU NEED and will do to protect those needs....
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
