Some may remember that W was going to file for a D online, which you can do here in PA. She's been dragging her feet on this, but when I found out the OM had moved in this weekend, I decided to at least start the process by completing a Marital Property Agreement. I needed the VIN# for her car and details about her IRA to complete it, so I e-mailed her requesting that information. She of course wanted to know why so I told her.
She seemed a little upset in her response, so I asked what was wrong. She asked me to call her; I went into an empty office, closed the door and called.Found out that on Saturday SS24-her oldest-had gone to her house to pick up his brother, saw the OM and his mother there and tore into W, setting off quite an argument and ending with him telling her she was nothing to him.
Ouch.
I said I was sorry to hear that. She then said,"I've screwed everything up so bad that my own son is writing me off."
Yes, and my kids, and our friends, and your younger sister...but I held my tongue.
I asked her why the OM had shown up so soon, since I was under the impression it was going to be several months until he arrived. "Yes," she said," he wasn't supposed to be here for several months, but something happened that he had to leave and get here."
Hmmm...
She continued, "It's been a crazy mess. And you need to know - and I know you don't believe me - but there is nothing going on with us, and no way I want that."
Well, I still don't believe that, but I let it go by.
I asked if she was having second thoughts. "Yes, I am. I have no idea what I'm doing any more."
She then asked me if I would not rush the D procedure. "Sure", I said. "I'm OK with that."
She started to cry, whispered, "Thank you" and that was that.
I've got to really think about all of this.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
