I'm not saying you can never vent here, but the FOCUS of your life can never be another person's actions---dictating your well being. Nor can a long post be all about HER and other people saying others said this/that about OMs...sheesh, can't keep track of it all. As long as he's not a Redskin, I'm staying out of it.
As for fair and reasonable behavior or situations...want fair?...
hey, the continent of Africa's not fair.
So I'm glad you get some perspective.
If you must think of your w, be glad knowing how good you're going to look and how upbeat you'll be next time you run into her OR one of her friends...it will happen.
But realize that imo, her changes will happen over several months, maybe over a year...before
she lets the good feelings/memories resurface (assuming they don't get pushed down into her subconcious by more pursuit of yours or judgement by you)
that's a total turn off so don't be preaching to her OR HER FRIENDS about her either...OMG please, that's a bad bad idea, in case it crossed your mind. And Don't pray for her salvation in front of her friends either -that's the same stuff.
Just be the best YOU that you can be. Never mind her. She's in God's hands and he can handle it all. You don't have to.
Trust me, she'll hear about how well you look (or not, depending on what you show).
Over time, in the future she'll reach out. For a recon? IDK but for friendship at least, yes I think so. I just hope she takes enough time before reaching out, that you'll have done the work you need to do on YOU. Otherwise she'll think you never will change.
Be a strong INdependent man sure of himself who won't interrogate or question or distrust b/c after all, why would anyone cheat on YOU? And you won't have that silly "OW" text problem with the fake affairs...(that's my term).
This confidence will come. In time. And HER work to rebuild the trust will be needed LATER ON...for now, just work on you b/c as you know, she is NOT here and you are.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
