You're thinking superficially again about the OM. What needs did he fulfill for her? If it was escapism, was he fun and exciting? If it was stability, did he listen to her? That's what you need to figure out. Find a way to fill those needs in your W and all the other stuff about family will be a plus.
While family is great, remember that she's a woman. See her as an independent woman and not your wife or the mother of your children. That's how the OM sees her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.