MTS, focus on your GAL'ing activities. You are doing a good job of mixing it up. How did you feel about your situation on Friday night? In my experience, when I've done something like that, my situation seems very, very small. I also realize what I'm doing with my life and when I think about what my W is pursuing (the D, and that is NOT really detaching BTW) and it makes realize I am heading in a different direction with my life right now than my W is.
It did the same for me and I realized the exact same thing as you jb. I found myself just being able to kind of say "wow" when I heard some of their stories but see that somehow they could get some joy out of just playing bingo or eating some fruit snacks we'd brought them. It made me feel kind of silly to complain about being alone in an apartment when I'm sure any of them would love to have an apartment to be alone in. It felt good to bring a smile to their faces and be able to be a beacon of light in what must be a place of a good deal of darkness for them.
Similarly, I also saw how I'm headed in a different direction than my W. While she's out doing God knows what with God knows who, I was spending a Friday evening in a shelter volunteering. I don't say that to be self righteous but I guess this experience has given me a lot more perspective on life in general. It's made me be much more appreciative of things and I think more importantly, it's allowed me to realized how UN-important so many things are in life.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
