Thanks guys, seems I need all the help I can get right now!!
So moving forward, im maintaining the darkness, I have to be consistent
I'll have the kids my nights as agreed and let all forms of communication comes from her, let her take control
As for him? He's older than me, and not as good looking!! Ha ha
But he has no ties, his kids are grown up
So when he's in town, is pure escapism, it's not real life There's no pressures of real life, it's a freedom to go wherever they want, no kids, they are with me, just fun
She has used the term, I can go out and have a laugh
My plan is for now to remain constant, calm and dark
It's not real, he won't want 2 young kids to look after when he's about, he just wants fun
So I be the family man, steady and consistent The father her kids love and she admires The man she was always physically attracted to, but had lost the emotional side she wanted I think we both stopped laughing, we had lovely house, 2 great kids, 2 good careers, but with that brought pressure, pressures of time, of bills, and of work, it looked great from the outside, but inside it was hard to maintain, and I really think it affected us We stopped being a couple, and became parents and professional people We stopped being us???
Can I give what he can, no But can he give what I can?? Does he want to even?
I just have to leave her decide what works for her
I think I was well on the way with that over the last few weeks, but that's wrecked now!!!
So I start again and make sure I don't slip up this time!!!
