My wife walked out 8 weeks ago. We have no children.
For 6 years we had no arguments and led a very happy life together. Each of us allowed the other independence to see friends and do other interests without getting jealous or argumentative about not seeing enough of each other.
For the past 2 years my wife has had a lot to deal with: Her mum was diagnosed terminally ill and died over Christmas 21 months ago, since then her dad has found someone new, my wife's job was threatened, her sister's long term relationship fell apart and then rekindled, my wife got a promotion with more responsibilities, her dad's new GF moved in with her dad, my wife's best friend was jilted at tyhe alter. All this plus the strain of aniversaries associated with her mum: illness, death, birthday etc.
Throughout I have tried to be there but was increasingly pushed out and told that she was too tired/stressed to speak about things or organise shared events. She eventually developed a habit of going out with work friends that I wasn't invited to join on one night, and then being bored/depressed and hung-over at home with me the next.
She says she doesn't love me and has now decided that there were problems before her mum was ill.
Now I don't know what to do. I want ot be there for her but she has said she doesn;t want this.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? How I could behave? Should I meet her? What should I say/do/not say or not do?
She has done this before as her previous long-term boyfriend was pushed out as she fell out of love with him just after she lost her grand father.
Has anyone got any positive ideas that may have a hope of reconciling me and my wife?
