I agree with the other posters, except I would let her come to you. Give her space. You have scared her with the blowup. She may be afraid of what will happen next. Let her see that you may have gotten angry, but you are in control of yourself again. And I do agree that om was probably her sounding board when she didn't know what to do about you and your R. Like MrBond said, make YOU the better man.
And that's a very good idea, that jon29 said, to ask at your next meeting if others have this problem even after getting sober, and any suggestions on how to keep it under control.
