Even if you don't do anything it's doing something. With you still being here I'm assuming you still want to save your M.
Okay with that in mind. Have you thought about what you can do to control your temper? That's first. She has to see a drastic change in you.
Next, tell her that if there are times that she is going out that you are more than happy to watch the kids. She may not take you up on it right away, but the more you do and have positive actions with her, the more trusting she will be. The key word here is trust. She's told you she loved you but was afraid the changes you made aren't real. Don't push yourself onto her or stay in front of her face. Go dim and increase the positive interactions and eliminate the negative ones.
Figure out what was it about the OM that attracted her? Does he really listen to her and follow up with questions? How does he look? Not saying you have to be like him, you just be BETTER than him.
The more you can stay in your W's life, the harder it will be for him to have a hold on your W. If you keep up the positives, any negatives about the OM will start to stand out.
You may not think it's fair, but it is what it is. What you do moving from this point is up to you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
