Actually Tad, I think a post from 25 was pretty good (different thread).
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YES...and as such, he's responsible for his words/actions. Period.
It helped me as a L to think of it this way==
Like states such as Iowa, Texas, Florida, etc....We each have a "jurisdiction" to manage in our lives, made up of our actions/words and property and relationships and dreams, etc. It's OUR STUFF....Texas doesn't tell Iowa what to do and neither do other states tell Florida what to do...
So, Try just to handle your own sandbox of life.
That= YOUR issues, YOUR character flaws that you are working on, GAL, the 180s, loving your kids as best you can, coming up with a financial plan based on not having h around but getting reliable CS from him, etc...
Nobody else's sandbox matters to you unless their sand gets into your box. IF SO, you move yours so you sandbox is always just fine thanks.
AND there is Plenty of sand in your box.
That seems appropriate that you would keep that distance regardless of staying married or not. Pursuit is not in your best interest and she shows signs of sadness and confusion but not of remorse and coming back. You show signs of detachment which causes her to focus on something other than you
Your own sandbox is what you are focused on allowing her to focus on hers.
Make any sandcastles yet?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
