Irma first of all ((((((HUGS))))))

I can so relate to your post as my father just turned 86 and is slowly dying from a parkinson's like disease.

He is not longer there for me and the pain that we are enduring.
We are now in our late 50's and have become the parents to our parents.
And the parents to our children and grandchildren.
It is a tough spot and hard to not try to FIX it.

Do the best you can and give the support that you can give.

Try to let the rest of it go.

I do truly understand how you feel. :):)

Me-70, D37,S36