So all weekend I got to spend time with her family, mil her xh, funeral for her sisters fil, soccer games on saturday and baseball games on sunday. I even took S9 to SD soccer game. mil said she's just here to help. She helped encourage the D. mil told my mom that she just pretends everythings ok and tells the kids she loves them. Maybe not her place to talk about D with kids but pretending everythings going to be okay is what got us here in the first place. Mom told her it wasn't ok to pretend that it's okay. Mom's a state licenses psychologist thats worked custody cases for decades and started the now county requirement that parents and kids attend the D class that she developed and taught. That kids need to talk about it and understand the process and the reasons so they can process it in their minds. Last night I talked with S9 and he didn't realize that Mommy and Daddy wouldn't be there together to put him to bed any more. That he wouldn't have a choice of who put him to bed. He cried and I asked how he felt about it. He said "Sad". I was honest and told him that I didn't want the D and what I thought were the reasons for it happening. He is sooo sensative and will have a real hard time when moving out happens over the next 2 weeks.
Faith, thanks for your input. I've realized that there are more fish in the sea for awhile but have been living in that illusion/the dream. It wasn't that she just looked good-I still feel that emotional connection. I don't know whether she does or not despite what she says.
