I sent MIL flowers

[MrBond]

I did give you credit for giving MIL flowers, or have you forgotten. Your H seeing you, however, was not planned by you just an unplanned result. So you don't get credit for that.

And if you read my complete post, I focused on your fear of losing everything because your H has been spending money or have you forgotten?

That is always your immediate worry. What do you plan to do about that? Hard on you? I don't think so. For far too long you've been complaining that you'll end up destitute with your son because of your H's spending habits. But you don't do anything. You even said he bought a Bentley, which alone I find hard to believe. I mean if you were in that much debt, how did he even secure a loan for such a high priced vehicle? In fact, how do you survive the day to day things like food, gas, mortgage, etc. if you have no money?

Unless you and your H are filthy rich, I don't see how you can swing it.