Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[angel61]

KG, you are an incredibly strong woman. I think you handled yourself very well, especially in these last post. All your reasons for not wanting the kids to meet the OW are right. YOur H is an incredibly selfish person at this point.

I do see two positives so far: he does appear to care about his children a lot, and he is able tocommunicate with you.

Keep working on yourself, keep being strong.

It looks like his R with OW is still on shaky ground. But he has to find out for himself. This is he part that you should not meddle in or try to fix for him.

You know your H, and know if he is worth your energy and your tears. And you know that you yourself played a big part in the problems of your M. In the early part of your sitch, as you know, the dynamic of control and guilting and being demanding is still obvious.

But you do seem to be a fast learner.