time and distance

[any chance?]

Thanks, folks.

You are very correct. I will wait for her to call.

Just had dinner with our best friends. W confided in them continually, as do I. They point out that depression is a very bad disease, and very hard to deal with. They maintain that W is a totally different person than she was a few years ago. The main argument is that I should cut W loose.....the connected finances aside.... but that W is effectively dead and is never coming back. Take care of myself. Quit investing emotional time into W.

I am an emotional disaster. I have loved this woman for 20+ years, and my best friends tell me she is gone and never coming back. She is in her own world and has been for a couple of years.

I am a fool. Love her, want to be there for her, but I am a fool.


I have never explained myself here, but I am a fairly successful academic type. And all this is sucking the life right out of me. Hard to understand why I should continue. How do you know when to pull the plug?