My wife dropped the Bomb 2 days after a vacation on July 26th that she doesn't love me anymore, is done, and has felt this way for a while. I went crazy trying to figure it out in the conversation and she said she was going to counseling for herself. We had another conversation and she said hateful things like do I have to say I hate you for you to understand and she is not attracted to me. It all was bad and I was distraught.
We were then alienated for a month, sleeping in different rooms and she was secretly texting and calling people all the time. I thought she was having a affair or something as I was tracking her text on the phone bill and Facebook and much of it was men or new men I have never heard of. We went to marriage counseling once and it was a complete wreck with no encouragement from the counselor to work on it. The counselor said to go home to decide if you want to work on it and at this point my wife did not which I thought meant we are done. I suggested separation as a last resort which she gladly wanted to do. We have be separated since 8-15-11.
She only texts me about our 2 year old son that we are sharing now. She is living with a friend I have met 2-3 times ever which didn't make me happy that our son was staying at a strangers house but she really gave me no choice as I tried everything to keep him home, even sleeping somewhere else the nights she had him to keep him home but that lasted 2 days and she was done with that.
She has shutdown to her family and most of her former friends as I think she is ashamed. She has all new friends and lifestyle of drinking and going out that she really never did before. I have unfortunately have pursued like an fool and probably pushed her away even more. She has met with some mutual friends and my bro-in-law & sister that went through a separation which I think is good. We meet on Saturday the 9-17-11 because I wanted to but she said she still felt done at this point and was not attracted to me. She is still going to counseling for herself about the situation and her communication problems that she agrees she has. I have been going as well by myself to help me through the process.
I realize now that I have pushed to hard and need to so the Last Resort Technique to try to turn things around. I need help and support as this has been super hard on me and me life nearly impossible at times. My wife's parents divorced due to an affair by the father and the family has been a wreck from it. I really don't want the same for us. Please help!!
