okay so I know I am to be focusing on myself and the kids. I am but questions still come to my mind. I am going to throw this out there and you can give me a 2x4 if you want but it is a question that haunts me some. Many times in C ( currently not going due to money) my therapist would tell me "your not that powerful". This is in regard to talking about how my actions could make my H go one way or another. Push him over the edge if you will. Well, if I understand correctly according to DB we have a significant impact on how our S's react when they are in the confusion part of their crisis. If we pull back not push and plead. I made those mistakes. I clearly remember my H acting like he was so torn many times. Then I would argue or try to talk him into why he should be happy. And, he actually said to me"thanks- you just made my decision for me" Really?!?! Thought I wasnt' that powerful. Try living with that?? Any input?
