I honestly think they, like LBS think they are done long before they really are. But keep in mind, they started way ahead of you. In some sense they are in a different place. What started as a need for change, became much more. Much like a wild fire...
Think about it. You and they are in different places with the relationship. In many ways, you are catching up and doing the work. While they are thinking they are done and haven't always done the work.
Regardless, the result is often the same....
Working on you is to get you to a place where you are...you. With or without them. Knowing that they are not done is only helpful in understanding there will be more junk from them later.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
