Shock, Sorry I haven't had time to post. Been super busy with work and life. I also don't tend to post alot to other threads when I'm super emotional. I feel I'm not very helpful when I am in that state of mind.
Anyway, I agree with alot of what has been said. You need to see a L. I didn't think I had as many rights as I do until I talked to one. Realize that you are not moving closer to D or farther from M by seeing one. You are protecting you and your son. You are doing this because from this moment on.. no one else will.
Your w isn't t the first spouse on this board to threaten to take away the children from the LBS. There are a few people on this board that are struggling with this also. This is not to say that your threat is not greater (because in all honesty, we don't have all the same rights) only that no matter if you are in a gay relationship or a straight relationship.. the craziness is still kinda the same. I encourage you to reach out to those peeps. (LITB comes to mind). Your w is spewing anger and fear, hopefully that is all it is.
Your w hasn't moved out yet. I would recommend digging deep within yourself to see how you want to handle the situation should you move towards S. Think about the woman you want to be in all this. When this is all over, no matter the outcome, if the Shock a year from now looks back would she think.. "I handled that the best I could, I can hold my head high".
When you figure out who that SHOCK is, hold tight to her. Your w will test, provoke, anger, and do a range of other things that will push you to the limit. Remember who you want to be, let that be your guide and your focus. This is your life, your story, you can choose how to live it, you can choose your happy ending!
More to come soon. Hang in there woman. I'll be praying for you.
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M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
