Oh, rysmom, I understand. I only meant to talk to him about what the two of you were going to do in the future. Maybe a small R talk. I understand how he feels with the DNR for his mother. Recently my mother was in the hospital; she had a stroke two years ago, and she got bad again. My sister told us she had a DNR, and that she would have to tell the doctors to pull the plug if it came to that. She pulled through, thankfully. I hope your MIL will be okay.
Try to go see her if you can, now you know you can handle running into H.
I agree with your mother, you should have gone with the feeling. I don't think it would have looked desperate at all, it would have looked like you comforting him, nothing more.
I wonder if your S was listening, hopefully. So, go give your S a hug. Sorry, I think I will go hug my S, now. vc
