Telemark, sorry about everything that is happening now, and I don't think I would use the word 'happy' to describe their household.
If this is an MLC (or similar) for your W, please know that it will take much longer than the six months since your bomb. It's truly up to you whether you want to wait and be patient, hoping against hope (which does sometimes happen). YOU have the power, you might not realize it yet, but you do!
You are right that you need to detach, detach, detach. Only then will you and your W have a chance for R. Again, this is up to you though. I just ask for your sake, no hasty decisions.
Hang in there!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
